The journey…six years later.

**I’ve been ruminating on this post for a few days. Stops and starts. It may not flow, but it’s what’s in my brain, stream of conscious**
Six years ago, I got married. October 21, 2007.
Yet it feels *so* much longer than six years.
My life then to my life now? Is simply unrecognizable. While dates that used to bear significance to ‘that’ life used to hit me more, with time, they become duller and duller and now, just a memory of a lifetime that has passed.
But what doesn’t become dull is rejoicing in where I am today, vs. where I was then. In embracing my journey. In realizing that every step I took, every decision I made, was made with intent, and was made with empowerment and choice.
I shaped this life. Me. Nobody else. I went for what I wanted, I changed and evolved and became the me I am today for nobody else but myself.
And that is something I will cherish and embrace forever.
And it is something that is always within me, this drive for more, bigger, better. Truthfully, this drive sometimes causes me angst, unrest, and restlessness. The want for more, always and my ongoing journey towards simplifying, doing more by doing less, and being content with being perfectly imperfect.
And I circle back to my beginnings, which I define as the day I started my journey alone, independently, for the first time in my life, back in 2008, just about this time of year…which is probably why I am thinking so much about my beginnings lately. Late October has felt like the ‘bewitching’ time of year for me (and truthfully, no pun intended), conjuring up the juxtaposition between then and now and it humbles me. It brings me back to that drive, that motivation and that want for the best, always. In everything I do, every step I take, every barre n9ne class I teach, every press release I write, every action I take in all walks of life, from my marriage, to my job, to my passion (b9, of course!).
Which brings me to this…some more beautiful and striking words from Jeff Goins, a writer that strikes what I am thinking just right…in the below, and generally, in any of the blogs and articles I’ve read from him lately (see my post on the Slow Down Challenge here).
When we embrace the journey and don’t just live for the destination, we discover a deeper life.
And this. Take a read of these…and I am pretty sure one, if not all of these, will resonate. To the next six years, beyond and further. To the journey.

10 lessons we learn from journeys

Journeys are important — both physical ones as well as figurative ones. They help remind us that we are not done yet, that life itself is a trip that we can make the most of or completely miss the point.So here are 10 brief lessons I learned from my trip. Maybe they’ll help you on whatever journey you’re taking:
  1. No journey is perfect. Take one, anyway. You will grow regardless.
  2. The destination is never quite what we expect. But without one, we wander aimlessly. So having a final arrival point is important if for no other reason than it gets you started.
  3. Only when we let go of what we think we deserve can we really enjoy what we have.
  4. Inspiration is everywhere. You just need eyes to see it. Yes, even in cornfields.
  5. The hard part isn’t getting from point A to B. It’s paying attention to what’s around you before you miss it.
  6. A journey is less meaningful when traveled alone. We need community to make the most of all experiences, even if that means finding it along the way.
  7. Art helps us process. A good book or great record not only helps pass the time; it gives language to an experience you might otherwise not be able to describe.
  8. Gratitude makes any experience better. It’s easy to want to be home or some place else but we have no control over that. Turns out all we can control is our attitude. So why not be thankful?
  9. The best journeys have a purpose. But expect to be surprised and even see that purpose change.
  10. If you accomplish nothing, see nothing, even feel nothing, take heart. Whether you realize it or not, you’ve changed. And this is reason enough to continue traveling.

16 thoughts on “The journey…six years later.

  1. My ‘old’ wedding anniversary came and went on Sep 20. I had a brief moment of thought – wow, I would have been married TEN years today – then I went on with the day. You are right… Those days are like a past lifetime, getting duller with each new day that comes. Your journey to happiness is inspirational. 🙂

    1. Wow, isn’t that crazy? ten years, but now just a fleeting thought! I am so glad you are so much happier now too. and THANK you, I am glad to inspire 🙂

  2. So … I need to write you an email. I WILL get to it, eventually (I’m horrible at giving myself tasks), but I wanted to say you are an inspiration every day for me. I’ll divulge a lot more later, but just know that your journey. Its been the light at the end of a dark tunnel some days for me. Other days its been the kick in the pants reminder that I need to make my own dang sunshine in life and LIVE. So I get up and do just that. Thank you for sharing as much as you do and shine on!

    1. Hi there, wow, I started to look at your blog and will in more detail, but it sounds like you are going through this right now, divorce, and somewhat similarly…I feel for you so much in this time, this crucial, transitional, change, but when you look back, I promise you, you will be amazed. Please do know that and email me anytime. I plan to go through your blog in more detail too. I am so touched by your comment! Have you been reading long?

  3. I actually had to think about what my wedding date was from my first marriage. I seriously couldn’t remember. I guess that’s a good thing, right? That life is in the past – and I tend to keep it that way.

    1. Isn’t that crazy? it does get dull and completely meaningless, almost, over time, in a good way. I am so happy for YOU and your journey to here 🙂

  4. Go girl!

    That dates comes and goes for me too. I still feel a tinge of sadness, maybe for our daughters, maybe for a sense of failure still.

    So excited for your happiness, especially since I’ve been reading you since your divorce!


    1. Not a failure, T, not in the slightest. You are a shining example of moving ahead, of strong co-parenting, even when it gets really tough. I admire you and your strength. always. XOXOXO!

  5. For the past few months I feel like I’ve been on a journey, but one that I’m not sure where its going to, but I can just feel like it’ll get me to where I need to be.

    You have no idea how much I love and *needed* to read this!

  6. I didn’t realize that it was only 6 years ago too. What an incredible journey you have been on and the growth and change and contentment/happiness that comes through your words is so inspiring. Yes you absolutely shaped this life. xo

    1. Crazy how ‘short’ 6 years can be, but also how long, at the same time, if that makes sense. Thank you so much for your kind words, as always friend! XO

  7. I can’t believe it has been that long. It is amazing how much has changed and while we go through it, it seems like the worst ever but in the end it is the best thing ever that happened to shape us. SO proud of you friend!

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