On overthinking.

Overthinking Ollie hasn’t made an appearance in quite some time.

For that, I am extremely proud. (especially as kicking that overthinking tailspin came at the exact right time in my life, because I was heading down a very ugly path in my head, otherwise).

But that doesn’t mean she doesn’t rear her ugly head now and again and I have to tamp it down ever so gently (yet firmly).

You see, overthinking leads to negativity.

Overthinking leads to going for the field goal, and not the touchdown.

Overthinking leads to comparison, fear and losing trust and faith.

All of these things I have worked so hard to quell and have honestly conquered pretty damn well, I do believe.

But sometimes, overthinking rears its ugly head and I need to remind myself just how far I’ve come. In life, love, my job, and my body.

Harness that, and not the negative, questioning, comparing that can be so ugly.

This is me reminding myself to keep that overthinking Ollie at bay. Cuz I got this. 


PS check out this fantastic article from Emma…she interviewed me for the article and I am so proud of how it came out. Thank you for the opportunity to share my story and how I harnessed my divorce to turn it into an experience that shapes me to this day. When Overachievers Divorce. 


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24 thoughts on “On overthinking.

  1. This is a good message for me today. Thanks! And thank you for the link to the HuffPost piece as well. I appreciate you sharing your story w/ me!

  2. I *just* saw this pin on pinterest and LOVED the meaning behind it.
    A big huge amen to this post sis, I could use this reminder as well. Especially after last night’s “doubting” moments I shared with you via text. Thank you for talking me down, yet again. xoxo

    1. Sometimes it’s easier to give someone the advice from the outside looking in. And I know you’ll pay it forward the next time I have an overthinking moment! You did that for me yesterday anyway, during our phone call, remember? XOXO

    1. Oh I am so glad! (not that you have a situation that is trying, but that this helps you see that you can only do so much and if you can’t change it, might as well accept it, and do what you can to get through it).

    1. It sure does! overthinking is freaking tiring and fruitless, isn’t it? It is easier said than done, but we can all do it together 🙂

  3. I have so much going on at work, marathon training, and now buying my first home…not to mention family demands, a sick mama, and a sweet niece recovering from heart surgery. I am CONSTANTLY reminding myself to NOT over think. Slow down, trust God, take deep breaths. Over thinking is tiring! And it get’s you no where. Thanks for this reminder!

    1. You, my dear, are a saint. How you are doing so much with so much going on around you and your family, is beyond me! You are the epitome of juggling it all and trying to prioritize what you need to, focus on growth and progress, and not sweating the small stuff too much. Hard to do, but so worth striving for!!

  4. It must be normal or something because I’m doing it too. I’m normal, aren’t I? 🙂

    Thank you for the reminder, sweets! Love!

    1. You ARE normal, yes, indeed 🙂 And while hard to do, it’s worth releasing yourself from the angst that overthinking causes. It is so fruitless most of the time!

  5. I’m a HUGE overthinker – I have to mentally beat myself up, to stop overthinking, if that makes any sense. I find writing, even if just for myself and no one else, really helps this!

    1. It sort of makes sense, but I hate to hear you beating yourself up! Though I know we all do it sometimes, it isn’t the best habit I guess, huh? Writing it out is the best remedy or just talking it out with a friend or family member. Always helps me!

  6. Man, you know I can totally relate to everything you said here. You’re right…it makes you want to sell yourself short of all the really great things you can accomplish. Going for a field goal instead of a touchdown. Yes!! I don’t think any of us could ever live a life free of negative feelings/self-talk. Because just like when you’re constantly doubting yourself, you have days where you actually believe in yourself and feel amazing. So even when we’re feeling fantastic all the time, we have those bad days. We’re human. 🙂

    1. You’re right, we are human, and it happens. It is just learning to pull yourself out of it when it gets too bad, right? And of course I know you can relate 🙂

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