On glimmers of inspiration, perspective and quelling the overthinking.

Putting things into perspective

I’ll cut right to the chase. I have a lot on my mind today.

My overthinking brain is in overdrive. I am trying not to march into negative thinking territory again after quite an interesting ‘fitness evaluation’ freebie I got at the gym I signed up for next to my apartment and am vowing to take a day to ‘let it marinate’ before I delve into it more here (and in an attempt to quell said overthinking). With that preamble, I am hoping to harness some inspiration and perspective I’ve gotten out of a few fantastic reads of late.

For as much as I wax on about having – and keeping – perspective, I tend to falter here a lot more often than I’d care to admit. Especially lately. Maybe it’s fear. Maybe it’s my overthinking. Probably a bit of both. But sometimes, the extra kick in the ass is what I need to reel that perspective in and realize that if nothing else, I am able, I am happy, I am downright blessed.

So when I read Christine’s post after starting to get sad that I am not running this Sunday’s half marathon with my sister Jess (though I will be there cheering her on, and running parts of it with her, hopefully! AND meeting Christine, as I hear SHE is running it too! Yay!)), I realized a few things.  Just because I am not running a half marathon doesn’t mean I am not a runner. And for as many runs where I struggle, I have at least two that are really good. That’s huge for me. The dreadmill thing is conditioning me. And more so than that? I am able to run. I have a fully functioning body. I am healthy. I am not injured. I am fully capable of getting back to that half marathon…one day. So reading Christine’s very personal post about her accident and how far she’s come, and this particular statement: “Comeback stories are the best… they show that there are great opportunities in life’s setbacks.” I seriously couldn’t agree more. I have opportunity. This is my chance. I just need to focus on the good, work on the areas I need to, and move on.

Challenges are both my nemesis and my catalyst. But at the end of a challenge, I always conquer. So...game on, let’s do it. 

This brings me to the beautiful Melissa’s post over at Live, Love & Run, on acceptance. On accepting your body, your life, your loved ones, everything. It struck me particularly today given aforementioned fitness evaluation but also because I have struggled with this very concept for awhile as has Melissa (I swear, our brains are in unison on some of this stuff lately!), and seeing her gain a ‘moment of clarity’ with regard to herself and her body, well, it gave me the kick in the ass (again!) that I need to do the same. See myself as others see me. Pick out the good, not the bad, and work on the in-progress areas each day, because a little goes along way.  I’m going to ‘borrow’ her image here, because it’s absolutely the truth. This is the reminder I need today. And everyday, let’s face it.

And finally, two more posts ignited such inspiration, I just had to share them. First, Alicia at Poise in Parma (who I get to meet this Saturday! Yay!) posted on today being ‘National Evaluate your Life’ day (in part inspired by Tina’s post at Faith Fitness & Fun, which I wanted to stand up and give a standing ovation for, particularly this: “…this post is a plea from me to you. A plea to take a close look at your life. Really take the time to consider your goals. Pay attention to how you spend your time..A plea to live the life that matches your values.. ”

So, what are the values I want to align my life to? AM I aligning my values to my life? In some ways, I think I am, but in others, I think I have a lot of work to do. Here are a few of the values that are really important to me right now, and they really tie back to how I am feeling mentally and physically and some of the goals I am working on to move past the negativity, to ‘mentally’ grow into the healthy body I am carving out (instead of falling into ‘fat day’ moments constantly etc).

Simplicity. Last weekend is a perfect example of simplicity. I want to simplify my life (back to my manifesto!), focus on me, M, my family, my closest friends. And the rest? Well, it’s still important, but peeling back the layers, what is most important is that list. Nothing more. Nothing less. Same goes for my fitness routine. I want it to be simple. I want it to be focused. And most of all, I want it to be what works for me and what I want to do. Not because I think I ‘should’ do certain things over others. (more on that tomorrow…).

Integrity. This goes hand-in-hand with honesty, to me. And living with integrity and honesty (not brutal honesty, but honesty nonetheless) is important to me. Being transparent, open communication. No games. No lies. Integrity. Important indeed.

Confidence. This is a toughie (and maybe this isn’t so much of a ‘value’ but to me, it is). Some days I am, some days I’m not. I just want the confident days to far outweigh the lackluster ones. Is that so much to ask? I think confidence is freeing. Freeing from fear, freeing to grow and freedom that the sky is the limit. I am mentally blocking myself from things in life that I shouldn’t be. Lack of confidence is robbing me of things I don’t want it to and that I never want it to again.

It was actually incredibly hard to come up with a handful of values I want to align my life to, but in writing them out, I am already feeling more clarity on some things.

I challenge you to do the same…’evaluate your life,’ what are the values you want to align your life with? And what inspires you like no other? How do you dig yourself out of that mental tailspin?

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I struggle with it every day…but it never ceases to amaze me how writing it out and really dwelling on it for a bit actually frees my mind more than anything else. I hope this wasn’t *too* all over the place as I suspect it was…but try being in my brain for a day and you’ll see the maze going on in there 😉

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30 thoughts on “On glimmers of inspiration, perspective and quelling the overthinking.

  1. This is a fabulous post my dear. I am definitely with you on confidence. The lack of confidence can really hold you back. You underestimate yourself, your value, worth, and impact on others as well. Just remember that you inspire others all the time my dear. I know you probably don’t believe that, but you do. And as I already said to you this morning, please take those numbers and use them to your advantage. Let them fuel a new fire 😉

    1. Thank you friend. Confidence lacking is a really tough one for me and I don’t really know why. It just shouldn’t be. I have so much to be confident IN and so much to be thankful FOR. Being unconfident sometimes just makes me feel like I am acting ungratefully, even when that’s not the intention. And yes, numbers…I NEED it to fuel a new fire, not the opposite

  2. Oh girl, I understand about wanting life to align with your values and yours does. I get fear. I know all about doubting myself. But sometimes, I think we just aren’t happy unless we’re worried about something else. It’s so difficult to stay present and see so much around us to be grateful for. The world is constantly telling us we’re not enough.

    Stay true to you and the beautiful life you’re leading. I know you expect more but dang girl, you have more than some people, you know?

    (And I promise I’m not giving you hell about this post. I’m talking to myself in this comment too.)

    Find your bliss right now in this moment. You are exactly where you are BECAUSE of who you are. Isn’t it perfect?

    xxoo

    1. Sometimes having high expectations is my biggest downfall. To a fault. And I have so much in my life, it is FULL, it is HAPPY, it is BLESSED. So why the EFF do I still have these issues constantly? I just need to NOT be so expecting, NOT be worrying about the next and just listen to the words I write and the words I say…be present, be confident. Be happy. You are so right…I am where I am because who I am. Thank you so much for your always insightful comment and feedback. I always know you will tell it to me straight. XO

  3. Love this post – everything about it, but mostly because it got me into your head just a wee bit more. No wonder you are all over the place – that brain of yours? Does. Not. Shut. Off. Ever. I’ll say it again- I think your biggest challenge is: You. You set such high standards for yourself, push yourself to always challenge challenge challenge yourself, but you hardly ever sit back and appreciate, embrace and accept that hard work, that effort, that fire that makes you YOU. Once you can do that? Well damn sis, you’ll be flying all kinds of high. You are amazing. I just so so so want YOU to see the amazing person that you are. We can all tell you that until we’re blue in the face, but you have to believe it, own it, embrace it, accept it. So…what are you waiting for? Celebrate: YOU.

    1. I know. This stupid brain of mine. I think I need a lobotomy. No joke. I never seem happy with where I am, always looking to the next…to a fault. Not even in the good way, these days. I am working on it. I have to, because otherwise I am just tearing myself up. XO sis.

  4. Oh, jeez. I need some perspective today. It’s good to know that I’m not the only one who struggles so, even though I WANT to be the kind of person who can maintain that focus all the time. With a sick kid and a relentless computer virus, I have been seriously CRABBY. Everything seems bad, when in reality, there is so much goodness around me. I like your values assessment. I’ve done something similar in my moms’ group. Clearly, I need to revisit it. 🙂

  5. i loved Tina’s plea. It really hit home and made me think of the same thing. Simplicity, gratitude, and JOY in life. Much like you, we need to focus on those things and embrace growth!

  6. For some reason, I couldn’t get my last comment to post, so I am trying again! So, I totally get where you are at, and back when I was living a totally different life (and one that I seemingly wanted) I spent a great deal of my time feeling unsatisfied and/or constantly having anxiety thinking that everything I had was going to fall apart. It’s only now that I wish I could return to those days, but it is so hard to hold on to your perspective once the “good” comes back into your life. My suggestion would be to try and put yourself back in that place by re-reading the archives from your old blog to try and remember the darker times. That might help when you are feeling dissatisfied with your present.

    1. Yes, the unsatisfied feeling even though my life is good feeling…it’s actually a pretty crappy way to feel, all things considered. Things are good, I should feel good, ya know? Good call on reading old blog posts…I think that’s a good idea.

  7. Your post wasn’t all over the place – it flowed nicely! 🙂

    I hear you on so much of this…more so now than ever. I’m having to decide what kind of example I want to be for the sprout, which means I’m going to have to live that example every day…

  8. Life is constantly about digging myself out of tailspins. Just when I think I have something mastered…something crops up. Mostly I breathe. I allow myself to get upset and vent for a moment, but then I refuse to dwell. I let go so I have room for the good stuff.

  9. It took me a moment to step back, recognize those values and ask myself if I still felt they are pertaining to me at this point in my life. I felt they were, but in a different way than before. Life is all about changes but it’s fun to see that they are some things that are consistent. Perhaps that makes it all easier to get through – knowing you can return to your core values to bring you back.

    p.s. can’t wait for Saturday!

    1. You’re right! My values may stay the same, but just some of the ways I see and value those values (sounds funny, but hope you know what I mean!) may shift a bit here and there. And YAY Saturday!

  10. On confidence…”Freeing from fear, freeing to grow and freedom that the sky is the limit.”

    You’re right, Jo. We’re on this same weird, from a distance wavelength, aren’t we? (If that makes sense…does it? lol) So I copied your above statement for a reason. Confidence is a really funny thing, I think. I’ve been thinking a lot about confidence recently, and I need to let it simmer more. (Obviously there’s a post in the works.)

    What you can probably tell here is that you’re never alone. There’s always someone out there going through it, too, and that’s the beauty of it…while we might think that these weaker moments are tough or come on too frequently (in our own minds) or seem to define us, it’s normal and human. To be honest with you, it might sound funny, but none of us are what we deem to be “perfect”. In fact, maybe because we all have weaknesses, weakness is perfection? Meh? No? lol My way of thinking might be the after-midnight-quirkiness creeping in. I wouldn’t be surprised if someone understood exactly what I’m getting at, though. 🙂

    PS: People like YOU inspire me. (And I still need to read Tina’s post.)

    1. We ARE on the same weird wavelength lately. Fr-eaky. And it does help knowing that I am not alone. In some weird way, it just does. Read Tina’s post, it is really good, just like yours 🙂

  11. love this! integrity is a big one for me, too. always has been, but it’s one of lululemon’s core values and something I wholeheartedly believe in! also balance and FUN. 🙂

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