This is the third and final in my mini-series on what it’s like to be a triplet. I purposely did not read my sisters’ entries until I wrote my own, because I love to read our perspectives individually without ‘tainting’ my own perspective before I put it to paper (and not surprisingly, our perspectives almost always align…I guess it’s a sister thang!).
When I think about what it’s like to be a triplet, I try to think of it from the perspective of someone who is NOT a triplet or who does NOT have siblings.
But I can’t.
Because if I wasn’t a triplet, sharing my life with my two sisters, I wouldn’t know who I am.
I am who I am because of my sisters, because of who we are when we are together, and even who we are when we are not together.
As we’ve grown up, our family has become more dispersed and less close, as a result. It’s made me realize that my sisters are my family more than anything else. More than just siblings, they are my support, my best friends and my confidants. There are times where I can gain so much perspective from both of them on different topics in a way that I never saw before, that surprise me to this day.
For example. When I took this job in January, I knew there would be a lot of travel, a lot of time where I’d be on my own. My sister Jen reminded me that our lives have paralleled in that way, because she had to face the same realities when she went to Univ. of Florida for her master’s degree. She lives alone for several years in Florida, far, far away from home. She traveled home quite a bit, but this was a time of test for her, where she really had to rely on herself to get through. She reminded me of this when I was really starting to struggle with this the first few months of my job. It made me see her in a different light, suddenly. She became my mentor, in a way, understanding, in very few words, exactly what I was feeling. It gave me a new sense of closeness to her and respect.
Another example? When I was going through divorce, I stayed at my sister Jess’s place overnight quite often. It was a special time for us and a time where I became even closer to my brother in law, Scott. But it was also a time where I learned so much from seeing my sister’s marriage in action. Their marriage was, and still is, my ideal for what marriage should look like. And as I’ve embarked on this journey of love myself, with M, I have learned so much from Jess and all that she has learned in seven years of marriage. It’s helped me better communicate with M, realize that little ‘fights’ aren’t bad, and that we should make relationship investments. The best part of this for me is that if I thought I was learning a lot after I got divorced watching my sister’s marriage in action, I am learning even more now that I am in my own relationship with M. She has helped push me where I need to be pushed and realize that communication makes or breaks a relationship.
I appreciate and love my sisters more than I ever though possible. We laugh, we have random conversations, we support and we love each other. Best friends. Sisters. There’s truly nothing like it and no way else to describe it except for…if I wasn’t a triplet, I wouldn’t know who I am.
In closing, I wanted to share a few pictures of us with our beautiful niece Isabel, who as I have said many times before here, has truly united us together closer than ever, from the day she was born. I love looking back at these pictures, our first moments holding her, to some of today. She’s sprouting into an almost-one-year old before our very eyes.
I hope you enjoyed this series, and each of our unique perspectives. It was so much fun to write and read each other’s posts and see the evolution of our sisterhood now, at 31, and how strong we are together.