More sure than ever.

After witnessing one of very few weddings that I can honestly say I connected with in every way, I am more sure than ever that M is the one I’m meant to be with…hopefully forever.

It’s the first time I haven’t said ‘for as long as we’re meant to’ instead of ‘forever’ and I think that’s because of two reasons: I still have held back just a wee bit in surrendering my heart completely to M, even though I knew deep down that he is the one for me, and because I have said before that after going through divorce, that I don’t know that I believe that there is just one person for everyone. While I still believe that in some sense, I think that there IS the one you’re meant to be with forever (it just might take a few different partners to strike it just right).

The wedding was…perfect. The vows spoken blew me away and as much as I tried to hold back the tears, once the groom started shedding some as he spoke his short but utterly perfect vows, I was done. Tears were flowing and I held M’s hand tight. The words that did it? When he said “when I tried to put into words for K what I feel, I couldn’t. And not because I didn’t have the words, but because I think when you meet that person, you just know. And there aren’t words to properly convey that.” (paraphrasing here)


And K’s words to B were exactly how I think mine would go (ya know…if I were ever saying vows again at some point in the future and all, hypothetically, of course…), as she talked about the bumpy road that led her to B, and the pain that it took to get to where she (and they) are today. The ‘why’ factor and how it was all utterly worth it.


As I sat next to M, my heart swelled. As we walked around Central Park taking it all in, hugging and kissing and just enjoying the day, I could feel it more. Tangible. As we attended the happy hour at the Boat House, and then dinner at i Coppi, I couldn’t get close enough to M. More PDA than I’ve displayed before (don’t worry, nothing R rated!!). We talked quietly about weddings and he asked if it was something I ever wanted again. This. The hoopla. I told him no, I don’t want a wedding, but yes, I do want a marriage. To him.

I do. I really am more sure than ever that eventually…I completely see myself marrying this man.

More sure than ever.

34 thoughts on “More sure than ever.

  1. Love everything about this. You’ve fully surrendered to this love and you’re absolutely right, this is it, sis. M is it. He is your penguin. ❀

    1. aww! thank you my dear! I can’t wait too!! I know everyone will get along great! Now let’s get to planning that trip!!!

  2. You know I completely understand this. I don’t want a wedding so much as I want a marriage. So glad that you are with someone you can share this dream with!


    1. That would be MY plan of course…hypothetically speaking πŸ˜‰ the one thing I don’t regret from my last marriage πŸ˜‰

    1. Aw, thank you friend! I love that you have enjoyed watching the journey and I have enjoyed sharing it with all of you πŸ™‚

  3. You’re making MY heart swell and bringing ME to tears with this.

    Love this post. Love the surrender. So beautiful.

  4. I’m just 75 hours away (or so!), so I’m ALL WEDDING right now. And I have to admit, this made me squeal out loud. YAY for thos magical feelings!!

    1. aw! I want to squeal in joy for YOU!! ALMOST THERE!! That is so awesome! And thank you for the joy for me too πŸ™‚ whee!

  5. I couldn’t feel happier about this if I tried. You are a gorgeous, smart, warm and giving woman who has gone on an amazing journey…one that I can say I witnessed the entire way. You will always hold a very special place in my heart for many reasons (and some only you and I will understand or get), but this….this moment…or that moment is that it is all about. It is what it is meant to be and no one is more deserving of it than you.
    I love you….
    oh and I adore my penguin….thanks for helping us celebrate this past weekend!!

    1. awww! friend! You are so sweet. I love you too! And there are so many things we just ‘get’ and I love that about our friendship. So much! Knew you would ‘get’ this and the ‘penguin’ too. Overjoyed with joy for YOU and for ME and for what we’ve both become. XOXO! For life! πŸ™‚

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