I read a post from Booshy recently that I absolutely loved…so I am doing a spin on that – when your reality is shattered. (and it’s not what you think!)
What I loved most about what she wrote about, was an instance when something she’d grown to view as her perfect reality was in fact, not nearly as perfect as it could be. It could be BETTER.
So…when was my reality shattered?
No, it wasn’t when I got divorced.
No, it wasn’t when I dated dead-end after dead-end.
It was when I realized that that list of must-haves and dealbreakers actually amounted to something far more than I could have imagined.
And of course, that is M.
I am continually reminded of just how well worth all of that was to find someone that fits me so perfectly, that ‘gets’ me in just about every way, and that makes me want to continue to be the best I can be, in life, as a sister, daughter, auntie and girlfriend. That quality – the drive to want to be the best person you can be – is something I never had on any list I ever created for my ‘ideal’ match, but it has become one of the best things I love about M.
He makes me want to be the best I can be.
And that is when my reality was shattered.
Meeting him, falling in love with him, trusting him with all of my being.
I was asked by a bloggy friend recently: “how did you know things with M are different than with your ex-husband? Did it feel different? How were you able to trust him?”
I honestly don’t have an answer to that question other than…I just did. I never truly worried, or had nagging feelings or doubts, it just worked. It just fit. Trust was one of my biggest stumbling blocks when I was dating but now, it is one of my least fears. And I think that is a true sign that it’s meant to. No, it doesn’t always happen instantly, but when it’s meant to work out, it just does.
So, I’ll pose the question Booshy posted to her readers…So, how about you? Has your reality ever been shattered?