In the last couple of weeks, I’ve seen several big bloggy breakups (Nicki, QT, Marathon’s Mistress and others I’ve seen peripherally) and it’s really kind of shaken me. I wasn’t going to blog about it (T and Sunshine both did a good job of that already) and my thoughts on it, but then I saw QT’s news and her breakup.
It feels like breaking glass all around me and to be honest, it has really shaken me.
I walked over to M last night and reiterated the gist of the breakups, hugged him and whispered ‘don’t break up with me, okay?”
Half-jokingly since, well, things are pretty amazing right now.
Half-seriously, because, well, things are pretty amazing right now.
And what tends to creep in when things are smooth sailing?
Taking that for granted.
It was a huge reminder for me not to do that. Because I know we have something so special and I never want to let that go, especially on the basis of taking us and him for granted.
Some things that resonated for me in QT’s post?
Unconditional love is patient and kind.
It is not self-seeking. It does not keep a record of wrongs. When love is not patient or enduring; when love is unforgiving and always disappointed or looking for something to go wrong, it generates fear and looks for imperfections in the other person. Fear-based love is conditional – creating an atmosphere of distrust, dishonesty and instability.
Fear-based love is conditional.
I just wrote about how I am now allowing love to drive me, instead of allowing fear to drive me. It’s worth the risk, to me, to love fiercely than to hold back, take for granted or make too many compromises.
We’re worth it to be with someone that meets you with unconditional love, happy mediums and appreciation for all that we are.