Similar to what Misty is doing (inspired by this post), I am going back into my old blog and pulling out some old posts and reposting some of the content here, on this blog. While I won’t repost directly (even though many of you know my old blog, I am still trying my best to keep this one a little more anonymous), I will pull out snippets to share here.
I know there are a few posts that I want to introduce here, like my series on my father, my marriage and divorce, and a few others, I decided today for my first ‘throwbacks’ post to look at my post today, one year ago:
So, there’s some adjusting to that, and I think it’s managable, but it’s also something you need to learn, I’m realizing…how to make it work, how to adjust your schedule to fit that other person in, how to compromise. These are things I haven’t had to adjust to in more than a year, and it may sound selfish, in a sense, but it’s more that I’m just not used to it. That’s not a bad thing, but it does require a level of compromise on both parts, and an understanding of wanting to make it work, determining how to make it work, and then letting it flow. And, I’m glad CBE wants to make a go of it, see how the distance thing goes, because I think it can, at least in the near-term (we’re still “dating” I guess would be the term for it, still? More on that in a sec).
Wow, I was in a different place. I was dating Captain Blue Eyes (also known as CBE. He was 41 – the oldest I have ever dated, handsome, very tall, great blue eyes, but he was also pretty hard-headed and when he had an opinion on him, it basically became ‘fact’ and if you disagreed, it got awkward (namely, his cult-ish belief that “The Secret” was the be all and end all. Now, I like some of what that book has to say, but he was ridiculous about it…but I digress). What I am talking about in this post excerpt is around dating long distance. He lived a state away, about an hour and a half. And it was always a struggle to get together – not for me going up there to see him, but vice versa (of course). It became an issue, and reading between the lines here, it clearly already was. (Fast forward to today? M is heads and tails different. But we already know that, right?)
It feels like a lifetime ago, to be honest, and when I re-read some of these posts, I can see right through myself. I was totally convincing myself he was right for me, when in all honesty, he was all kinds of wrong. The only ‘right’ he was, was in pushing me out of my comfort zone, and actually, it was also the first time I have ever ended a relationship. On my terms. Not being the dumpee.
There are a few other posts that I wrote around that time, around what you ‘re-learn’ when you enter a relationship – trust, love, and figuring each other out. I still think those are the three main things you ‘re-learn’ and I’ll post some more thoughts on that now that I actually am in a relationship as well as another one that I don’t think I would have known until I actually fell in love. More on that later.
For my bloggy friends that know me from here and from my old blog…any other posts you recall that you want reshared?? I don’t even know if anyone remembers any specifically, but I think it could be fun to do a fresh spin on past posts now vs. then. Don’t you?