“The best relationship is not the one that brings together perfect people, but when each individual learns to live with the imperfections of others and can admire the other person’s good qualities”
It’s been quite a week for me…my emotions has gone in every direction, from self-conscious, to ashamed, to sad, to happy, to frustrated, to supported and finally, to contentedness. And I thought this quote really fit where my mindset needs to be, rather than striving for perfection in myself, namely, but also in terms of those around me.
We aren’t perfect. None of us are. But that’s what makes life, and the relationships we’re in, so dynamic, real, and well, educational. I learn so much from those around me that have such different perspectives, habits, hang-ups, goals, wants and fears. And it’s also another reason why I get so much out of this blogging community that I feel so fortunate to be part of.
It’s also why I think my relationship with M continues to flourish. Some of his tendencies challenge me. And I’m sure some of mine challenge him. His good qualities, of course, as well as those qualities that I struggle with, to be honest. Like his concept of time that I’ve jokingly discussed, but also talked about in-depth, as it relates to his job. Of course, this one is more my issue, as I need to accept that my timeline for things may not always match his, and sometimes, he’ll ‘be on his way’ over after work, and get hung up with something at work. The bottom line is, it’s not for lacking of trying. It’s an ‘imperfection’ I need to accept because damn, all of his other qualities far surpass this one. And this one is really my issue to contend with.
Just an example.
As for me, and my self-image issues, I need to live with my own imperfections and realize that those perceived imperfections aren’t so imperfect. They make me, me. And if there wasn’t always a challenge ahead, let’s face it, I’d be bored. So, I’m going to face this challenge head on and sincerely work on it. Because I know it’s not healthy and I know I’m worth more than self-destruction.
On that note, I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend. And to those who have relatives impacted by the earthquakes and tsunamis in Japan and Hawaii, my prayers are with you.