I’m noticing a smattering of breakthroughs in the last day or so, and even though I had another post in mind for tonight, I’m gonna go with the flow on this one (wow, so un-routine of me. *gasp*).
We had a breakthrough tonight. Kind of (well, to me it was, but to you, it may not be). Our plan tonight was for him to come by after work and given it usually takes him until 7:30 or so to get to my place after getting out of work (remember, he has no concept of time), my plan was to go to Group Kick first, getting home just around 7:30 as well (also a mini-breakthrough – to be ‘seen’ by him all scrubby after a workout. Huge for me).
He called me around lunch and realized he had forgotten his workout clothes. He thought he would go home after work, work out, shower, and then come over. In my mind, I’m thinking ‘no concept of time’ – here we go! – because, let’s face it, after all of that, he likely wouldn’t be over until 9. And I knew he’s stressed about getting some homework done this week and hasn’t had much of a chance. So I told him maybe he ought to stay home and get stuff done. To which he said that he’d skip the gym so he could come over earlier. To which I replied, “you don’t have to change your plan or sacrifice your routine to come see me, we have the weekend too, it’s okay!”
Fast forward to post-Group Kick.
I called him. He sounded absolutely drained. He wasn’t even home yet (let alone worked out or showered). I finally just said, “stay home. you sound drained. you NEED tonight.” He paused, and finally replied, “yeah, I think I will.” So even though it took me basically telling him to stay home, I am glad he is, because I know he will feel 100% better tomorrow once he’s gotten through some homework and had a night to un-drain himself.
I could almost see the lightbulb go off in his brain though. As if he realized that ‘yeah, she will be okay if I say no.’ I know that sounds silly, but it feels like it was a clarifying moment for him, and for me, to be as pointed as I was with him tonight (nicely, of course).
When I went to Group Kick tonight, one of my friends asked how the adjustment is working from home. And now that I’m in full swing with it, I am realizing that I AM adjusted, for the most part.
My new routine is built, I love the flexibility I have to really focus on my job and what needs to get done, but also making sure I take mini-breaks and my lunch break. The full hour lunch break seems to be a huge thing where I work. Everyone unplugs for that full hour.
This is a novel concept to me.
I am so used to hovering over my laptop working and eating and multi-tasking. They unplug. I love that. It makes me feel better about doing the same (as odd as that sounds). I’ve tended to actually work through lunch about half the time and take ‘their’ lunch (noon PT, which is 3 ET, my time) and doing something for me. I’ll go get coffee, or do a quick errand, or do Core Fusion. It’s actually a great way for me to break up the day.
Speaking of Core Fusion, this is my second week of the Core Fusion Challenge I am doing with my sister and it is absolutely enlightening. It’s working wonders. I feel stronger. I feel tighter. I can see definition starting to appear where it never did before, with other workouts. It’s challenging in a completely new way.
And, I had my first semi-decent 3 mile run this week. I’ve had a hell of a time trying to get my mojo back after the half marathon I ran last fall and for the first time in a long time, I had a relatively good run without any breathing problems.
Sometimes it’s the little breakthroughs that add up to feelings of great progress. This is one of those days.