But it’s so fun to fall…with each day, to fall more and more in love, and to realize there are “unicorns” out there.
(unicorns aka the eligible man you are looking for that ‘might as well be a unicorn” – a reference I didn’t “get” until reading this post. Side note: am I the only one that didn’t “get” that reference? I kept seeing and wondered!)
I got inspired to write this post after reading such a well-put post from Jessica at City Girls World that love is ‘downright terrifying.” And ya know what? It is. But as she gets to – and as I agree – it’s worth the leap, but once you have it, the fear of losing it replaces the fear of being alone forever or not finding love or conversely, letting go of the singledom you built up so nicely (check! check! check!).
I could have written this part myself:
The older we get, the more disappointments, hardships, and trials we face. That is not to say the converse isn’t also true. Happiness abounds too. But with time, we become all too aware of the fragility of good fortune. And when it comes to love… well, its never worked before (if you believe “worked” = forever) so why would this time be any different?
We can’t help but wait for that other shoe to drop.
Um, hi, that’s totally what I’ve struggled with, even recently. As scary as falling in love is, it’s all the other ‘stuff’ that comes with it that’s scarier. The shifting routines, the balance, the love that builds so deep that dreams of losing that person pops up and you realize that maybe you were beginning to take him for granted (check…).
What I most love about love – or my love 2.0 as I’d like to refer to it – is that it’s mine to shape. It’s ours to shape. And setting the stage for what it could turn into starts at the beginning.
Releasing bad habits.
Being open, communicative, honest.
Saying no sometimes.
Saying yes sometimes.
All of it.
Own it. Embrace it. Love it. And don’t let it go.